The Sleep Deprivation Paradox of New Parenthood:
From sleep research at Stanford to a psychologist specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), I've navigated the intricate maze of improving sleep. I've counseled clients through everything from nocturnal work shifts to chronic sleep disorders, believing myself prepared for any sleep challenge—until a baby's unpredictable sleep patterns blindsided me, taking me into an entirely new arena of sleep difficulties.
The Real Impact
Exhaustion isn't just a nuisance; it contributes significantly to symptoms of depression and anxiety. Lack of sleep can heighten irritability, magnify negative moods, and even increase the risk of accidents. In the context of new parenthood, these consequences can negatively affect not just you but also your approach to caregiving. The stress stemming from sleep deprivation may make emotional regulation more difficult, consequently impacting the quality of your parenting.
The Professional vs. Personal Experience
For expecting parents, don't let this deter you. Every baby is different, and many parents see improvements in sleep after the first 3-4 months. However, the early days of new parenthood are grueling. As a professional in the field of sleep therapy, I found it challenging to apply my expertise to my own situation.
The Takeaway
Sleep deprivation isn't just a discomfort—it's a health issue. If you can, get help, even if it's just for a night. Your mental and physical health will thank you. Employers and family leave policies also need to acknowledge the real impact of sleep deprivation when parents return to work.
Conclusion
Whether you're a seasoned parent or expecting your first child, sleep is crucial. It shapes our emotional well-being and mental health. To manage sleep deprivation, consider consulting a pediatrician, hiring a postpartum doula, or care from a therapist specializing in sleep. Remember, the challenges of new parenthood spare no one—not even those well-versed in sleep science.
Warmly,
Dr. Holly
References:
McQuillan, M. E., Bates, J. E., Staples, A. D., & Deater-Deckard, K. (2019). Maternal stress, sleep, and parenting. Journal of Family Psychology, 33(3), 349–359. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30762410/
Okun, M. L., Mancuso, R. A., Hobel, C. J., Schetter, C. D., & Coussons-Read, M. (2018). Poor sleep quality increases symptoms of depression and anxiety in postpartum women. Journal of behavioral medicine, 41(5), 703–710. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30030650/